Picking up the pieces and trying to start again

7 May 2012

So there has been a lot of mourning and thinking of the past almost week about where to from here, picking up the pieces you could say and boy where there a mess. Although we let someone in our life and they have hurt us badly we still want a family and we still need a donor (however if the previous donor had a change of heart I would have to say no as I couldn't go through that possible pain again).

We begin from scratch and try and find another donor, after what had happened my preference at the moment is anonymous but times heal all wounds and maybe someone will convince me to change my mind about that.

The past 6 days have been horrendous & painful. I can't believe any human being could put another through this kind of pain. But H & I are going to be strong and dust ourselves off and move on. Things happen for a reason and fate and that last situation was not meant to be for whatever reason.

Wish us luck as we start all over again. If you are aged between 18 -35 and feel you could be our donor please contact me through this blog contact button and if you wish to remain anonymous I will just pass you straight onto our clinic or just email asking for that info!

My original post about finding a donor last December 2011
http://pathtoparenthoodviaivf.blogspot.com.au/2011/12/time-to-make-big-change-with-help-of.html

Everything you need to know about our quest for a family is on this blog so if you want to get to see howmuch we want a child - just take a red back from the start.


Hoping you are out there somewhere.

My donor nightmare - a warning to all

COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN OF THE WORST KIND

2 May 2012

Well I know in these modern times its pretty cool to do anything via text, break up with your boyfriend, cancel plans with people at a minute's notice - seemingly anything goes and listed up all you potential egg donors out there - don't want to do it anymore for any reason - just send a text to your donor saying saying
"Im gona try send u an email in the next few days, just thoulg wld let u kno Im not ready to cycle again yet, sorry late noticebut though u shld know before ur app tomoz" (gotta love how the younger generatoin spell hey!! this is at 6.15pm to when its too late to phone your Dr and cancel the appointment.

H & I obvious reaction was what the hell is going on?? When we last spoke on Sunday she was all good to go & for me to get dates from my FS. What had happened? We had not had a fight or cross words? Her first cycle got cancelled big deal, its much better than the alternative then her ending up in hospital having her ovaries drained to OHSS.

Well today I spent the day in tears & H was not much better, I wrote the donor an email last night trying to get to the bottom of it all but heard nothing, I sent a text asking if she could read my email & respond before 9.30 am so I could let my Dr know what was  happening but nah nothing. I was so distraught I phoned the counsellor we had all out sessions with and she was in total shock & no it wasn't all my side as I read to her the text messages I had sent leading up to this & following. She was again in shock and thought this donor had presented as a good candidate but she was obviously wrong.
The counsellor suggested sending a text to her asking if we could have a chat, she didn't reply so I left her a message on the forums asking if we could have a chat (which - don't laugh the banned me for - like I care I have so many email addresses I can re-join to advertise or be back on there again tomorrow if I want!!)

I dont know even now what I did,  I just said all the things that I thought were the right things and made sure she knew no blame was placed on her as what was there to blame her for?? She can't help what happened with the medication.

So read the email  my responses below & take heed, you can pay all the money for everything you need your donor to do, they can sign all the paperwork and they can take something you say & twist it around into something to make a HUGE issue of IE: nothing.


Please be careful out there as I wold hate to see this happen to another donor so steer clear anyone who apppproaches you from Egg donation Australia, as they will find you on other sites advertising and poach you to come to their site which is a little mean girls club. They want you to jump through hoops & tell them your most intimate details then if you are deemed worthy, one of them may pick you to to donate too. Then take back her promise of donation.

On a serious not writing this has helped me feel stronger and take my power back. You give people the power to make you feel bad and at the end of the day what did I really do, nothing but be kind & generous and let someone into my heart. My journey will go on and thank god this happened now & before a child was involved. If what I have to offer in the way of friendship, support & care isnt enough for you - well it is for plenty others.